In Memoriam
My mother played games with us. She took us to parks, libraries and museums. She had a rule that homework was to be done before we played.
She saw that we brushed our teeth, said our prayers, and had a good nights sleep. She taught us how to clean and how to cook. We grew fresh vegetables and fruit, and made delicious pies together
As my siblings, my in laws, my father and I came together to care for my mother- signs of my mother's influence were abundant. We drank tea constantly. We ate meals together. When we asked for the help of friends and family- we asked for a good healthy meal, with vegetables. Fortunately people brought dessert as well. We took care of each other while we took care of her.
In her last days I told my mother that I would miss her. She touched my shoulder and replied, "You will carry me with you." As struggle to wrap my brain around the fact that my mother is really dead, I am reminded of the many things she did or valued that will carry on with us in the years to come.
She encouraged us to go to college.She continued to develop her mind through art and continued education. She thought it was important to vote, and to write thank you notes. She enjoyed classical music and listened to NPR. She spent money wisely; took milk in her tea; and traveled when she could.
She was my mother, and my friend.
She is my gaurdian.
Comments
You are correct in all your remembrances of Mommy. She was always so fond of each of you and you each had a unique relationship with her. You all were the light of her life and everyone who knows her has heard of all your lives' episodes. She would beam when she spoke about one, or all of you.
There is so much I would like to express about her but it races across my mind all at once. I struggle so greatly with the permanence of this separation and the loss of her warm embrace, or the sound of her voice, or the daily 'goodnight dear'.
Rae, you were remarkable in how you cared for Mommy. So tender and loving, and so supportive and effective. Complete.......I will always remember how well you did this for her to the end of days.
Each one of you kids had a special thing you did for her that I know she was well aware of and appreciated and loved you for being who you each are. She died with dignity, nobility and grace because, as a family, you were there for her. And I love you for this along with her. It permitted her to do this exactly the way she wanted it to be. She was so amazing in finishing everything she wanted to do.
Posted by: papa | January 18, 2008 1:25 AM
Thanks Papa!
Posted by: r.t.bean | January 18, 2008 11:45 AM