Dear Mama,
I've been having an increasing number of "now-would-be-a-good-time-for-you-to-be-alive" moments. I've also got a lot on my mind now that I am pregnant again. I am feeling a growing sense of disconnection from the world. I am taking some pro-active steps, and this is one of them.
I will write to you as frequently as a pregnant woman with a two-year-old boy can manage.
Hopefully, I will occasionally even get an answer from someone out in the universe.
Here are some of my questions that brought me to this juncture:
1. How did you get us (particularly boys) potty trained?
2. How did you get us to sleep in our own beds all night long?
3. How did you stay SANE raising us? By this I mean, I feel like I have a brain and a contribution to make to society. I'm not even sure what that is, but I am feeling the need to make outreach attempts. Somehow. Even if it's not professional - like, volunteering or something. But, man! it is sooo hard to find balance and time away from family. It's like I'm creating this love/hate relationship with family - I've GOT to get away, but the best time to do it is when we could be spending really good time together. Huh.
So, there you have it. First letter.
I love you, Mama. Enjoy your garden.
Love,
Mara
My dearest Mara,
I hear you. I second you. I would like to know the answers to those questions, too. I also love you and am so happy there's going to be another little fojas I can keep up with, even if from afar.
Love you. Again.
leila
Dear Mara, I have answers to your questions, and more...Call me!
-Char :-)
Just so you know, Mommy relished raising you so she just worked really hard to overcome her feelings of inadequacy and her real ones too.She had Cindy, and Heidi, and others to bounce her ideas off and to just talk. I helped too you know. We followed all the books on how to potty train but we were patient to let each of you do it on you own with tender urging and a bit of embarrassment near the end of it. And, of course, you are pregnant and that does impact your emotions just hugely all day long. I have been out here in the universe and my phone is dead and my other home phone has been off while I was out in my new Nae-topian universe with Ingridia. Oooh Iv'e been in Scotland, and Latvia and Italy(Rome). Today I have been up sonce 2 a/m. returning from outside over there and I am either too tired to be tired or much too alert to be going to bed or just too too over this wonderful holiday
and making new foreign friends.
See you sometime on Saturday the 12th.
much love from the universe,
papa
Papa -
1. I know you helped. Really. Please don't take this as an affront, but on the other hand, Mama was definitely the 'frontlines' woman.
2. Outside Over There. I recently got it out of the library because I remember Rae LOVING this book. It's CREEPY!!! Yikes!
3. Saturday! Yay! We look forward to it. You think you'll be here around lunchtime? There's a Fall Fest at the zoo this weekend for us to enjoy, too.
See you soon! Can't wait to hear from the great world traveler ;-)
Char - thanks. I'll check and make sure I've got your number. And then call once I get somewhere with better reception than my new house :-( Or wait - do you have Skype?
Thanks to your post I dont look like an idiot. I had a disagreement with my friend and this shows I was right. Thanks!